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Living with infidelity

Earlier this week, we heard from Lena who shared her story about how she came to be someone's mistress, knowing very well that she could never lay claim of him.

Now on the other end of the spectrum is the lives of family members affected by the actions of an unfaithful spouse. A mother and daugther pair share their stories of having to share a man with a third party.

Jane's story

Her father started an affair with a divorcee 15 years ago when she was 9 years old. She had to live with it ever since.

Jane's mother's story

I know my daughter questions my decision to stay with a cheating husband, I question myself too.


Why is a woman willing to become a mistress?

Lena shares how she became a mistress for 3 years even after the rude shock of discovering her beau was married.

Why do women stick it through with their cheating husbands?

Some women are used to a certain lifestyle and would rather put up with their spouse’s infidelity than give up the trappings of a comfortable home

Why won't the mistress just leave?

Emotional, financial needs together with esteem issues are just some possible reasons.

Straying men quick to point the finger at the woman

The "other" woman is always blamed for seducing the husband, tearing a family apart.

(*Lena and Jane's stories are by no means related.)


readers' comments
Indeed, times have changed completely!
In the past, if a man was proven good; a few women will marry him. Real life stories that two or more sisters from one family married to the same one man were not only common but TRUTH!
Just that we are thinking that we are independent in knowledge, finance, economics and other aspects; we change everything.
In the past, there was no need to fear that someone grows old. The family members will look after that someone. Of course, that someone comes from a large and extended family.
Posted by Superidiot on Fri, 5 Feb 2010 at 23:27 PM
How times has changed. My grandfather had 4 wives and looked after 4 families. The families got along without much problems. Now this kind man who looks after a poor divorcee and her two kids and all hell breaks loose.
All this seems to stem from a change in mind-set. Since the the women's charter was passed in 1965, a man is only allowed to have one legal wife. Hence this legal wife and her bratful daughter wants to lord it all over any other woman the husband may care about. It all about herself and the same about the daughter - it's all me, me, me.
Have they given any thought about her husband/father? Is he not a good and kind man. Does he neglect his wife and daughter? Is it wrong for him to show care for another woman and her sons? Is it .....
Posted by people on Fri, 5 Feb 2010 at 16:38 PM

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