What makes a woman become a mistress? StarMag speaks to one, as well as a mother and daughter who have to share the man in their lives.

Lena’s story

WE were together for three years. When I first knew M, he wasn’t married. The first time I saw him, I actually went home and told my mother that I had met the man who would be my future husband.

But we remained just friends and always hung out in a group. For a while, we were both caught up with our busy lives and did not see much of each other.

When he looked me up again, he told me he was married. I was shocked! It was an arranged marriage; his wife’s family was very poor and needed his family to bail them out of their debts. A few weeks passed. He propositioned me in a e-mail: “I can be nothing more than a temporary boyfriend to you. Will you be my mistress?”

I was so offended that I did not communicate with him for three months. During that time, a lot went through my mind. My divorce had been finalised, but the wounds from the abusive and faithless marriage were still fresh. My self-esteem was at an all-time low. I tried dating, but at my age, single men were practically extinct. All I was left with were divorced or married men.

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