Do you think only outgoing, friendly women can impress men in a social setting?

Here's some food for thought: Even the most expressive woman can be a bad conversationalist and turn men off. Even the quietest woman can be a wonderful conversationalist and appear charming to men.

Engaging conversations are like good music. It doesn't overwhelm or bore you. It just makes you feel pleasant all over. You look forward to the next time you listen to that music...and each time you hear it, it's lovely, enjoyable and satisfying to your whole being.

Today's tip is about making your conversations with a man sound like music to his ears.

So, what's considered good music generally?

Think of a song you really enjoy. Does it come with deafening drumbeats or ear-splitting electric guitar solos? I venture to say that your answer is 'no'.

In fact, I dare say that the song you like has these qualities:

1) All instruments and voices are in complete harmony with each other. No out-of-place melody or strange silences in between.

2) Solo musical arrangements, if any, in the song is IN HARMONY with the rest of the song.

3) The song touches something deep inside your soul because you can relate to something in the lyrics or an emotion triggered by a particular instrument.

4) It soothes.

5) It uplifts.

6) More importantly, you can't feel the same way with another song.

7) Only that song calls out to you that way.

8) You look forward to the next time you hear it. You may even have the impulse to look for that CD.


So how do the above related to good conversations?

1) What comes out of your mouth should be in harmony with his. Let me illustrate: He asks you what type of movies you like. You should not only answer him, you should tell him why, then ask him back the same question and make him tell you why. That's harmonising with him. You are IN RHYTHM, not out of tune.

2) Any topic that dominates in the conversation is fine as long as it is in harmony with something previously brought up. Let's go back to the 'movie' topic. Where appropriate, share about one movie that was unforgettable to you. Tell him the storyline and what moved you. Let him know how you felt and reacted.

3) In your exchanges, something in your words or expression just trigger a CONNECTION in him. Emotionally, he can relate to you now.

4) He feels COMFORTABLE with you.

5) He feels ATTRACTED to you.

6) More importantly, he doesn't feel the SAME way with another woman.

7) That emotional connection was triggered by you and ONLY YOU.

8) Now, he LOOKS FORWARD to the next date with you. As a matter of fact, he can't wait to arrange for the next meet-up with you.



About the contributor:
Sylvher personally went from someone who was emotionally empty, dateless and hopeless about finding the right man in the past into a "highly date-able" and happily-attached woman presently.

As a Dating and Relationship Advisor to women in Singapore, she has coached many women into successfully enjoying their dating lives and entering into fulfilling relationships. She conducts trainings and personal coaching sessions (upon special  requests) specially for women.

She maintains a website at - http://www.attractmeninsingapore.com