Dear Dr Date,

How important are looks when you are trying to get a girl?

Sincerely, John

Dear John,

Guys tend to focus exclusively on girls' looks.

Then they mistakenly assume that women are the same way.

Women care much less about looks than most guys think.

Girls want to be the prettier one in a relationship, anyway.

Most of what really attract women are a man's other qualities: Confidence, charisma, energy, masculinity, and the willingness to laugh at himself, including at his own beer belly.

Besides, strong body language, a fun vibe, and fashion sense can add a lot of points to a man's attractiveness immediately.

Once you are interacting with a girl, what really matters is how you make her feel.

This article was first published in The New Paper.