I bet you have encountered the shy girl before. They come in the following forms - the 'quiet' lady, the 'closed-up' girl, the introverted type, and the 'cold' goddess.

However they are called, you always wonder why they have to give a reply in 'less than five words' when you interact with them.

Firstly, understand that there are two main types of shy girls.

Type One: Those who come across as shy at first, because they want to keep it cool and look demure, not be deemed a loudmouth.

Believe it or not, there are girls who appear withdrawn because they are attracted to a man. They don't know how to behave and fear saying the wrong things, so coming across as shy is their 'fallback stance'.

However, Type One girls will usually warm up as you get to know them better.

Type Two: These are really shy. It's part of their personality. With the exception of a few people they are very familiar with and have known for a while, they talk to everybody else in a mode that almost seems unresponsive.

The good news is that most girls belong to the first category. But when you encounter a shy female at first, you wouldn't have a clue which box she falls into.

But you can find out, and the best way to do so is to be more talkative when around her. Be the leading figure in the conversation and talk more.

I mean, look around and you can find examples all over the place. The men who talk a bit more than other males seem to have higher rates of succeeding with women, right?

Let's be more descriptive about this -  you have to put in 95 per cent of talk-time at first while the shy girl puts in about 5 per cent.

As you continue from there, you’ll see a shift in 'energy' where she warms up more and you’re talking 80 per cent of the time while she takes up the rest of the 20 per cent.

These signs will proceed until the conversation becomes more balanced. She talks more than when she began and often initiates new topics to talk about.

But guess what? Most guys give up on the conversation too soon.

They may have put in 95 per cent at first into a conversation, but before the girl can warm up, the guys soon begin to read her quietness as 'not interested' and allow things to become silent again.

Being shy and being uninterested are two separate things.

But, if after spending 10 minutes talking to her and you sense that nothing has changed much, well, she would be your Type Two.

It’s not the end though.

If a lady is a Type Two, you just have to realize you have nothing to lose (you’re not enjoying yourself anyway) by rising up to say it like it is.

This means you will have to (casually and meaningfully) let her know the chat will only be enjoyable if she comes out of her shell.

Take the following as an example: She’s still replying you with those short sentences.

You (break into a smile): “From our chat so far, I can tell you don’t talk much. I may just mistaken your shyness as being creepy.” (continue smiling)

Shy gal: “Actually, I talk a lot with people I know for years.”

You: “Haha, I knew it. For now, you can pretend to know me for years or the rest of our chat is going to feel cold.”

The key here once again is to take an assertive but casual stand.

In such situations, the shy girl will be mindful about making others feel uncomfortable and start to talk more.

About the writer:

Skilldo is an 'ex-unhappy' Singaporean guy - who grew from being lonely,
dateless and single... into breaking out of it, and obtained a fulfilling
social life in meeting, dating and entering satisfying relationships with
women.

He is the author of 'The Ultimate Singapore Girl-Getter'. A
locally-focused guide for Singapore men to approach, date and successfully
attract the type of women they want for themselves.

He maintains a website containing secrets and training for men at -
http://www.seductionsingapore.com