I’M a student. My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year. We made love last year. He was such a loving guy initially but he has started to change and now he ignores me. I’m truly hurt because I love him with all my heart. At times he is okay with me but sometimes he makes me cry.

When I ask him why he’s ignoring me, he says he needs to take care of his family. He is the only son in his family and has three elder sisters who will be getting married very soon. This means he will be responsible for his whole family. I understand that, but shouldn’t he also spend time with me?

We used to text and talk every night but now we seldom talk and we text only once a week. I’m worried that there’s another person betwen us. Whenever I ask him about this, he says he loves me sincerely and his whole family knows about our love.

I want R to be with me till I die because I love him so much. What do I do?

Dying Girl

YOU are still a child who expects love to be sweet, wonderful and perfect. While you revolve around love, your fellow has to take care of his family.

Do not take this relationship so seriously. Although you have shared every intimacy, you are emotionally immature. You must also learn to read your man. If he is cool and rarely texts you now, then something is not quite right.

However, check him out. If he is really bothered by responsibilities at home, then be more understanding of his moods and time. In the meantime, you need to think of your studies and your future. Can you afford to throw away your career for this man? If this relationship can break you into pieces and leave you crying, dying and helpless, then does this mean you will not be able to deal with losing this guy?

Anyone can suffer a failed relationship and heal. You are young and untried. Sure, love seems the only thing to live for right now but when you are more in control of your own feelings, you will be able to handle the trials and tribulations better. Yes, love hurts especially when he is your first. But if you allow this relationship to make you miserable and depressed, then it’s not love at all.