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Mon, Jun 21, 2010
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Japanese couples say “I do” – in divorce ceremonies

TOKYO - With divorce on the rise in Japan, some couples are choosing to celebrate the end of an unhappy marriage by saying “I do” for a final time at a  divorce ceremony before friends and family.

Divorce ceremonies were pioneered about a year ago by a former salesman, Hiroki  erai, who set up a “divorce mansion”in a small undercover space in Tokyo.

Since then about 25 couples have each paid 55,000 yen ($606) to hold a  ceremony with all the pomp and grandeur of a wedding that publicly ends their  relationship before they officially file for divorce. Terai said he had received more than 900 inquiries.

The latest couple, who called themselves Mr. and Mrs. Fujii, met near Sensoji  Temple in Tokyo’s traditional Asakusa area on Sunday and rode in separate  rickshaws to the “divorce mansion.”

“By putting an end to our marriage, we wanted to give ourselves fresh starts and  give our lives a sense of renewal,”Mr. Fujii, a 33-year-old businessman, told  Reuters Television.    

He said he felt responsible for the failure of his marriage as he spent too much  time away from home and too much money on his various interests including cars  - despite numerous warnings from his wife.     

Friends and family of the Fujii couple followed closely behind the rickshaws on foot,  arriving at the “divorce mansion”for a ceremony where they smashed their  wedding ring with a gavel, a gesture signifying the end of their partnership.    

The gavel has a frog’s head as frogs symbolise change in Japanese culture.    

“When we smashed the ring together, I felt like “oh, this is the end of it, really” and my heart and soul felt renewed. Now I feel I can have a new life and start all over again,”said Mr. Fujii.     

His wife of eight years also expressed her relief.
   
“The moment I saw the smashed ring, I said to myself, “Yes! That feels so good”,” Mrs. Fujii said.   

Terai, who is believed to be Japan’s first “divorce ceremony planner,” came up with the idea of divorce ceremonies to help couples celebrate their decision to separate after one of his friends was going through a bitter divorce.    

Divorce is on the rise in Japan where it was once taboo with aobut 251,000 divorces taking place in 2008, partly blamed on the poor economy taking its toll on  romance.
    
Next month Terai heads off on his first business venture abroad to Korea to  officially divorce a couple in Seoul.
   
“I started this ceremony in April last year thinking that there should be a positive  way to end a marriage and move on by making a vow to restart their lives in front of loved ones,”Terai said.

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that's darn stupid
Posted by perceivedtobe on Mon, 21 Jun 2010 at 17:12 PM
Smash the RING, Destroy the RING? Sounds like lord of the Ring. If the couple have mutually agreed to divorce, to have this ceremony or not is immaterial, let alone to smash the ring. What a waste!!! They can sell the RING to pawn shop, and not only that, they get to keep the $606 which would have otherwise gone into some conman's pocket. The money saved can be used to invest in new ventures or donate to the poor. Or if they do not mind, I would be most glad to help them "destroy" it for free. :)
Posted by Ahimsaka on Mon, 21 Jun 2010 at 17:08 PM

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