Their illicit relationship went on for some time, with each taking extreme care to keep it a secret.

"We didn't want to hurt our spouses and, while we didn't ever discuss it, we also knew that we were unlikely to leave them for each other."

A former colleague, who confirmed her story, says that he suspected "there was something going on but you could tell they were very, very careful".

Yet the woman reckons both spouses had their suspicions and till today she thinks it was her husband who blew the whistle on the affair.

She confronted him, but he denied he had anything to do with it.

"All he told me was, 'If you want the brutal truth, I'm the real victim here.'

"Unfortunately, he was right. I was the one who hurt him badly, and there was nothing I could do to undo the pain and hurt I had caused him.

But she admits: "I am most disappointed with the man who was my lover.

"He left me to deal with the aftermath, to pick up the pieces.

"Not once did he call or message me to ask me how I was."

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