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4 tips for meeting and dating this Valentine's
by Skilldo

Once again, the season of love is here.

And in these few days, whether you have one date, no date or many dates with women, here are some easy digestible tips to boost success in your journey of finding your dream girl.

#1: Any undesired response from a woman is a perfect opportunity to turn things around

Many times, the things a woman says can throw you off-balance (for instance, she's hot on moment and cold the next).

Well, I'd like to think that these are "tests" to see if a guy can "stay on course".

If a man becomes spiteful or sweats under these circumstances, it is likely that he will not be perceived as a person with solid character.

If he were to exhibit playfulness and steadiness in the presence of such difficulty, her respect for him will increase.

One thing is for sure - these undesired responses from women will happen no matter what. Be glad when it happens, because it is an opportunity to display how in control of the situation you can be.

#2: If 9 out of 10 men are typical, be different and do the opposite

My mentor once said to me: "What most guys do, slow down their progress with women. Things can be sped up but problem is, when a person is too used to doing something, he'll think that is the 'only way' to do it."

If you observe carefully, only a small portion of men in Singapore have got for himself the woman he really wants, or is living the type of dating lifestyle he set out to have. But how did these men get there? Were they crowd followers?

Being uniquely attractive requires stepping into the unknown and throwing old practices out of the window.

You will get average results if you when you follow the 'average crowd'.

It's time to reinvent your ways and change your path.

#3: Buying gifts for a woman won't work if she isn't attracted to you in the first place

Before you get a girl to be yours, how much you can get her to like you is not weighed by quality or quantity of things you give for her. (Besides, if for any reason you are required, or worse, demanded to buy her things, something's wrong.)

The biggest determinant is in how much of that sizzling attraction is pumped into your time of "interaction" with her. Use your masculine charms and ability to connect to make headway with her. Target her emotional triggers to bring about a deep liking for you.

Bear in mind, you will never achieve success through your wallet.

And in the event you managed to her head-over-heels over you, buying her presents becomes optional - she already likes you.

#4: Men succeed most with women when they don't over-rely on signals in women

This will counter conventional beliefs but the common characteristics I found about men who have more success with women is that they don't look too much for tell-tale signs in a woman before taking action.

They simply act confidently and swiftly.

Don't wait for a woman to 'smile' or 'flip her hair' or 'look interested' before approaching her because by the time you do that, she would have most likely walked off.

Same thing with being on dates. Never rely on signs to detect or guess if she 'seems interested' to go out with you.

Instead, get her out first and then cause her to take an interest in you.

You are much better off giving yourself the allowance to take action when it comes to women and dating. Don't wait or rely on some sign of body language for you to take action.

Enjoy yourself this Valentine's season!

About the writer:

Skilldo is an 'ex-unhappy' Singaporean guy - who grew from being lonely, dateless and single... into breaking out of it, and obtained a fulfilling social life in meeting, dating and entering satisfying relationships with women.

He is the author of 'The Ultimate Singapore Girl-Getter'. A locally-focused guide for Singapore men to approach, date and successfully attract the type of women they want for themselves.

He maintains a website containing secrets and training for men at -


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