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Being first-time parents is a life-changing experience

Model and designer Sirinya "Cindy" Bishop and actor Byron Bishop have been together a long time - they wed in 2005 -and recently became parents for the first time.

Today, on the occasion on Family Day, they share their experiences and joys of living with Leila Carmen Bishop, who's now three months old.

How's life so far? What was the biggest change when the baby came along?

Cindy: The biggest change would have to probably be time. You cannot plan your day; any schedule has to follow the baby. Before she arrived, I was a very organised person; my whole day was planned.

With the baby here, everything depends on her - when she's hungry, when she wants to sleep and so on. And we make each day as much fun as possible because we don't want to miss one moment.

Both of us read a lot about the developmental aspects, what we should be doing. We have lots of information but at the same time, too much information can be confusing. So we just go with the flow.

What are your days like now?

Cindy: Well, wake up and feed. I'm starting to work a little. On the days I work, Byron stays with the baby, and when he has stuff to do, I stay.

We don't have a fulltime nanny but we have a housekeeper, who is very good with children. So we've kind of promoted her to part-time nanny as well. If there are days when neither of us can be here, then the baby can stay with her.

Also, my mother lives in Pattaya, so whenever we have time, we'll go there. So I'm slowly getting back to my schedule. I try to work out, lose weight and in between everything, there's the baby.

Do you do everything for her?


Byron: Of course, I don't brush her teeth, though!

Cindy: That's the only thing he doesn't do. Everything else he does; bathing, changing nappies, putting her to bed. He's very hand-on. It's really great!

Byron: It's the first time I've had a child. I don't want to miss anything.

Cindy: It's better now she starts to sleep eight to nine-hours a night. She's sleeping at 7pm and has one feed at 3am and she wakes up again at 6am. So we don't have to worry so much.

The first two months I had to feed her every two to three hours then Byron would burp her and put her to bed so that I can get some sleep. She's an easy baby.

Are you going back to modelling?

Cindy: Yes, I'm posing again. I have the "Modern-Mom" television show and I'm hosting some events. I'm starting to lose some weight. By July or August, hopefully, I'll be back in shape. Since I'm still breastfeeding, I watch what I eat, and work out for an hour every day; running for half an hour and yoga for another half.

How do you manage time for yourself, your baby, and your husband?

Cindy:
We just make sure that we let each other know our plans or what we have to do on that day. We'll go some place that we can take her with us.

How did you feel the first moment you saw Leila?

Cindy: I started to cry because I was so tired after 14 hours in labour.(laughing).

Byron: I was in the delivery room too and I felt the anticipation much more. As soon as she was born, I thought I'd be like counting her fingers but it's more relief. It was a wonderful experience.

Have your interests changed since you became a mother?

Cindy: Yes, since I knew I was pregnant, I've read everything about pregnancy, childbirth and babies. Now Leila is here, socialising takes place during the day.

Byron: We have afternoon parties.

What qualities should the modern mother have?

Cindy: She should be superwoman (laughing). Seriously, she needs to know how to balance work, baby, husband and herself.

At the end of the day, just be grateful for what you have. So many people want to be able to do everything. I'm so grateful for all my blessings. Don't let yourself get too tired or you get frustrated.

Byron: You just have to know that it's normal. You're not always going to know if you're doing the right thing and when the baby starts to cry, it can be scary.

So when somebody says, "Babies cry, that's normal," you feel a lot better.

Cindy: There is no right way to do it. You've got to be the best parent you can be. At the end of the day, trust your own instincts.

How will you teach your child to live in such a competitive society?

Cindy: We'll teach her important things like morals, values, manners, and how to appreciate things in life.

After that we'll let her be her own person too.

Byron:
I think the most important thing in my life giving and having love. You know that you have somebody to care about and you have something to live for. I think what children want is love and family.

Cindy: For both of us, family is the most important thing. So Leila will know that she has our love and support. We'll do anything for her.

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