If you have one or a number of trusted female friends who will tell it to you like it is, I suggest you keep them close as advisors.

Those "female accomplices" of yours can tell you honestly what they feel/want/like about men, which other girls may not be willing to share so openly.

And you will find that  one of those hidden 'real deal' topics you will hear from your
trusted sources is: Women like it better if you can display a reasonable amount of authority when you're on a date with her.

That's right. A lady will find it appealing to know that the man she is seeing has the capability of directing the date. 

Maybe it's good to elaborate with a 'negative' example.

My friend has a male colleague who is the ultimate nice guy. He is probably too nice for his own good. He takes cares of every detail when he's out with a girl.

He would ask the girl what she likes to eat, where she wants to go after dinner, whether the air-conditioning was too cold for her, etc.

He would also frequently check with the girl to see if everything's alright.

At first sight, many may think such sensitivity would have the girl put the guy on her "Most Desirable Boyfriends" list.

But that's not the case. Instead, he finds it difficult to get women to see him on subsequent dates. He is still trying to find out why women are repelled by him.

Let's put it this way - women do not like men who cannot provide a sense of direction.

In my example, the guy's actions may be well-intended, but he looked too wishy-washy and indecisive to the girl, detracting from his attraction level.

It seemed like he required a 'permission slip' from the girl for all his actions every few minutes.

But again, when I say a guy should display a reasonable amount of authority during the interaction, I don't mean for you to morph into a male-chauvinist.

Instead, these are the points I'm getting at:

- You are a guy who knows what you want, and are projecting self-control.
- You can give yourself permission to have fun while you're out with a lady.
- You can take charge of the entire date as it happens.


If you have a place in mind to bring a lady to, lead her there. There's no need to check in with her for permission before you proceed. You can always bring her to other venues if your original plan does not go well.

Remember, you govern your own male-strength. Women are attracted by how you manage this strength.

About the writer:

Skilldo is an 'ex-unhappy' Singaporean guy - who grew from being lonely, dateless and single... into breaking out of it, and obtained a fulfilling social life in meeting, dating and entering satisfying relationships with women.

He is the author of 'The Ultimate Singapore Girl-Getter'. A locally-focused guide for Singapore men to approach, date and successfully attract the type of women they want for themselves.

He maintains a website containing secrets and training for men at -
http://www.seductionsingapore.com