There is a story about an army soldier, which has a lot of similarities to how a guy in Singapore woos a girl.

During World War II, an army platoon was getting ready to invade the enemy's country, and the platoon commander was giving a speech to motivate his troops.

He finished off with this question: "Men, we're invading enemy territory tomorrow morning. Are you ready to die for your country?"

All the troops held up their gus and answered in unison: "Yes, Sir!"

All except one soldier, who kept silent.

The platoon commander stormed over to him, and demanded to know: "Soldier, why are you keeping quiet? Do you lack the guts to sacrifice for your country?"

To which, the soldier replied: "Not at all, I have no problems with sacrificing my guts. But it's just that it's ineffective for me to die, because then there'll be one less person to fight the enemy. I'd rather make the enemy sacrifice themselves for their country."

How does this story have any bearing on how to be good at dating women?

While other guys are focused on what they think is an effective way of attracting the woman, you focus on what is truly ineffective.                                                                                              
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                         
Let me explain what I mean.

In Singapore, when a guy tries to court a girl, he will say things like: "I'll do anything for her, I'll go to the depths of the ocean for her."  

And in a situation when the woman turns him down, he will start to think - "I'll wait for her, no matter how long it takes."

This sort of 'sacrifice' may sound heroic, but it won't make her feel attracted to him - it is ineffective.

To be honest, if the guy hasn't gotten the girl attracted to him in the first place, he can sacrifice all he wants, buy all the presents he can think of for her, and even wait till the earth expires, she still will not want to be with him.

There are two main points to this:

1) Doing ineffective things for a woman with all your heart and soul does not them, well, effective.

2) Causing her to feel attracted to you must come first - it's the sole thing that will bring
you dating success.                                                                                                                               
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
Like the soldier in the story, you have to see women in a different light.

Instead of thinking you will do anything for her, shift your focus to  getting her attracted to you so much that she will do anything for you.

Let's talk about causing attraction to happen now.

One way to do that is to create anticipation, or build up suspense.

The biggest mistake most guys make with women is to show they are too eager.

When they receive an sms from a gal, they are too eager to reply (usually immediately), they are too eager to show (or confess) their liking to women, and they are too eager to impress women by doing chores, or showering them with gifts.

Frankly, women will test guys with situations just to see if he becomes eager, and when he does, the women tend to feel unattracted to him.

One example is when a woman tells a guy she is not available to meet him on a particular day. He eagerly asks if there is another day she can make it.

Here's a tip: Be willing to hold back on your eagerness. Be willing to leave women guessing or wondering.

Anticipation builds attraction. Eagerness kills it.

When you receive an SMS from a girl, do not reply immediately.

Stretch out your replies. Vary the length of your responses by sometimes replying in ten minutes, sometimes an hour.

When she asks you questions like "What is your star sign?", there is no need to be so eager to give a straightforward answer like "Virgo".

Be willing to tease and have her guess - build up the sense of suspense in her.

Tell her to make a guess. "You have two tries but I'll give you a clue; it's not Scorpio."

And when you want to meet her on a certain day but she says she cannot make it, try not to appear too eager by immediately checking what other day she is available. That is a sign of desperation.

Instead, tell her to enjoy whatever she is doing that day and talk about something else.

You want her to question if she did the right thing to refuse you.

When you build up suspense and cause a girl to wonder if she messed up something, her attraction for you increases.

Use the above well.