When the wife of disgraced film-maker Jack Neo told a packed press conference last Thursday that she still loved him, she joined a long line of wives publicly standing by their straying spouses.
Neo was exposed last week as having had an affair with 22-year-old freelance model Wendy Chong.
But his wife Irene Kng, 46, has told the media that she has forgiven him.
'I love Jack, I love this marriage, I love my family,' the mother-of-four said in a soft voice as she choked back tears at the press conference.
The declaration of support took its toll though. She collapsed as the couple left the conference, bursting into heart-rending wails.
The stand-by-your-man refrain is one that has been repeated by public figures such as Hillary Clinton (former President Bill and Monicagate) and Victoria Beckham (football star David's away games).
Yet the disempowering image of the long-suffering wife and adulterous husband seems at odds in an era where women have made great strides towards independence.
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What Singapore women say about cheating hearts
Yeah I was getting mixed up between thots and actions. I have to correct myself and say that thots of sex range from 300 to 1000 times a day.
Action varies and is fairly irrelevant as I do derive pleasure from many other things in life - probably like you my dear...
I am sorry to hear that. I really hope your hubby wakes up and realised that what he built over 9 years can be destroy by this moment of folly.
...sounds more like a man who suffers from sex addiction (you know, the medical condition which Woods is alleged to be suffering from..)--rather than what a typical man would want to do leh..
Anyway I doubt very much lah. It's like saying that a typical woman would want to own a LV/Prada/Hermes Birkin bag but actually, there are many many other women who do not fancy those bags at all (and it's not because they couldn't afford it).
If it is for a moment's pleasure and he does not have permanent relationships with anyone, your marriage is not beyond repair. Men sometimes do it because they like to feel they are in control and may have alot to do with his ego rather than he does not love you...However, if a man has other permanent relationships, then I think he has serious problem...It is not that someone cannot love 2 or more people at the same time but I think that when he finds another lover, he does not only have an ego problem but actually have no sense of commitment to truely love someone at all. This being the case, marriage will always be a failure whether it happens now or later on. Unless he can come to terms with the responsibility of true "love" and "forsaking all others" to love someone, then .....
I will help answer this the best I can:
1. A typical man wants to make love between three and ten times a day.
2. A woman can be burnt out from their job in SG as they genuinely do work very hard (my wife is a project manager and can juggle far more projects than a man).
3. Women switch to reproduction-only mode as sex can be tiring.
4. I have internationally-travelled before, but there is nowhere like Singapore for temptations. There is a "business buzz" which makes it raunchier than say Manila.
5. The women in KTV lounges are NOT ONLY programmed to tantalise all five senses (and this is often their only, yet highly-perfected, skill) but also do not "lay off" after say a one night stand.
6. There used to be more prostitutes around .....
Why do men have to have affairs and hurt the one who loves them most for moment's pleasure!!
Because they still need their husbands to maintain status quo in their lives.
Because of their kids.
i have learnt this the hard way with a good friend of mine, 'W'. He carried with his relationship with his ex-girlfriend , YY for 3++ yrs even after he is married. He is not those who just want to have affair wth 'YY'. He really feel for her and have wanted to take care of her. Though,he know its wrong, he also feel responsible to 'YY' ! How idiot/stupid he is!
Anyway, to cut short. 'YY' finally left him without a word. 'W' was so sad,hurt and grieved and fallen into severe depression. In the end, 'W' have to be admitted to IMH twice. See Psychiatrist and on medication for 7 months. During this 7 .....