I HAVE friends who divorced their partners after a few years of marriage.

Often, accommodation becomes a problem. Some rent a room on their own but, as rental is expensive here, this can increase financial burdens.

Those who have children with them will find renting a hassle, as it is inconvenient to live with strangers in the same household.

Children suffer the most, with some sandwiched between parents in custody fights. However, the adults suffer too.

My divorced friends all miss their children terribly, especially the fathers, who often have only weekly visitation rights.

At the end of the day, they go back to an empty home. They lapse into depression easily and the first year of divorce is terrible for some.

I have spoken to a few who feel that life is meaningless after divorce, with the separation taking away their self-esteem.

Also, the alimony payments may add further strain on those with financial struggles. I urge those who are divorced to look ahead. Join a support group for divorced people, and move out of your comfort zone. Try to mix around and know more people.

Hopefully, those who are thinking of leaving their partners will reconsider their decision. Try to work things out with your spouse and put in at least 110 per cent into the relationship. Seek help from a marital counsellor if things are beyond your control.

Always seek ways to mend your relationship. Divorce should be the very last option.

MR GILBERT GOH KEOW WAH SYDNEY, AUSTRALIA

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