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'Hi, I'm interested in you'
by Zaihan Mohamed Yusof

THEIR online introductions may seem as innocent as “Hi, my name is Jane or John... I am interested in you.”

They even send photographs of themselves to prove their sincerity.

They claim that all they are looking for is a lasting friendship.

In some cases, that may be true.

But for at least three Singaporean women and many others overseas, replying to such e-mails has proved costly.

Instead of finding love, they were duped of their money in a scam conducted over the Internet.

Police here recently issued a warning to alert people to be wary of such scams.

It seems some people never learn.

One victim, Rita (not her name) thought that writing to a stranger was exciting.

The 29-year-old teacher in Malaysia did not ask how Aziz, a Senegalese supposedly living in Britain, got her e-mail address.

She admitted that she is not blessed with good looks. Yet, Aziz made her feel special.

Said Rita, who declined to give her real name because she is afraid her parents will find out: “Nobody would give me a second glance, but Aziz spoke to me like I was the most important person in his life. Naturally, I was flattered.”

The picture he sent her early last year showed a man in his prime – tall, dark and handsome, she claimed.

She said she was usually careful not to fall victim to online Casanovas.

“Aziz was different... He wasn’t pushy,” she said.

After three months of sporadic e-mails, they exchanged telephone numbers.

Rita would stay up close to midnight before calling Aziz, who claimed he was an IT consultant in London.

Slowly, he introduced his family to her by showing pictures of them at their home close to Dakar, the capital of Senegal.

And after nine months, he popped the question: “Will you be my wife?”

She agreed.

Soon they were making arrangements to meet before deciding to break the news to their families.

“It was a special moment as I would never think I would find a husband so soon,” she said. “We were even thinking of what names we would give our children in the future.”

Arranging to meet

She suggested going to London to meet Aziz for the first time. But her online lover suggested that he go to Malaysia, as London was too cold at that time.

Two days before they were to meet, Aziz called to say his mother had been hospitalised due to a heart attack.

Someone claiming to be a woman from Liberia sent our reporter this photo.

He told Rita he had to return home. Being the eldest son in his family, he claimed it was his responsibility to raise money for his mother’s operation.

“He didn’t ask me to help,” she said. “But I had to do something for the man I would marry one day.”

So the concerned woman wired RM10,000 ($4,100) to Aziz.

She said Aziz was happy to receive the money. She didn’t hear from him for at least another day.

Two days later, he called her early in the morning to say that his mother’s health had deteriorated. This time, he needed another US$10,000 ($15,000) for her surgery.

She explained: “I didn’t have that kind of money. So I had to borrow the money from friends. I wired him another RM10,000 and assured him that he could take his time to repay me.”

Aziz certainly took his time. That was the last time Rita heard from him.

He disconnected his handphone line, leaving Rita wondering what she did to deserve such treatment.

“Those sweet things that he said to me were all lies. My psychiatrist says I have to let go and not let it affect my life,” she said.

Rita’s case is not rare.

Here in Singapore, police say that three women were duped of $8,000 by foreign men last year.

Embarrassed

The New Paper on Sunday requested to speak to the victims, but all declined to be interviewed as they were embarrassed.

Across the Causeway, just last year alone, two men and five women lost RM186, 000 in online love scams, said Datuk Michael Chong from Malaysian Chinese Association’s Public Services and Complaints Department.

In 2008, seven women were cheated of RM383,000 by virtual lovers.

Mr Chong said: “I was shocked when the women lodged their reports with me... They were quite beautiful. I don’t understand why such beautiful women have to look for love online.”

Many of the women were in their late 20s.

Mr Chong said he had spoken to one of the conmen, who claimed to be from Britain.

He seemed irritated when Mr Chong asked many questions. The man, who sounded desperate, said he had been in trouble and needed money urgently, Mr Chong said.

As for the Malaysian men who fell victim to this same scam, they were sent photos of female Korean models.

They thought they were corresponding with beautiful women, said Mr Chong.

He added: “People never learn... this scam has been around for a long time. There are so many eligible bachelors in your country, why go for foreigners?”

While more cases have been reported overseas, local organisations like the Association of Women for Action and Research say they have no records of such online scams.

Spokesman Kerry Wilcock said it could be that victims are too embarrassed to step forward with their problems.

She said: “They are embarrassed that they trusted someone with personal information and they may also have been threatened that the information may be uploaded on other websites.”

This article was first published in The New Paper.

readers' comments
The old fogeys at Geylang can take comfort knowing that they are not alone.
Posted by sure_win on Fri, 15 Jan 2010 at 12:58 PM
i nvr understood how ppl can fall for such scams. ppl shouldn't trust so easily.
Posted by smokeytambam on Fri, 15 Jan 2010 at 12:03 PM
People need to learn how not to be blinded by love.
Posted by shybunny on Thu, 14 Jan 2010 at 17:01 PM
there are CON woman who just want man's body.
my friend was a victim who meet a girl . The girl just rape him..they got to know each other in www.singaporee.com
Posted by workinginchina on Wed, 13 Jan 2010 at 12:26 PM
Dating local man also would meet con man. They use their love con woman's money, they know woman always have a compassion heart, make a lot excuse, after "borrowed" your money, will cut connection with you, shirk the debt, left you alone to suffer...
Posted by jamiesingapore on Wed, 13 Jan 2010 at 11:14 AM

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