HAVE a few words to say to Desperate Wife (No sex, no marriage) – you are definitely not alone.

I’m 45, married and have two lovely teenagers. For the past 22 years, not once has my husband kissed me. It’s even impossible to get a hug from him.

Just like you, I've tried talking to my husband and pleading with him. I gave him articles to read and even called him selfish, but nothing worked. Once, he even told me that he had lost interest in sex. I don't know if there are three of us in my marriage.

I'm in the midst of an early menopause and find it extremely difficult to cope with life. But I’ve managed with the help of two good friends, who are my pillars, my religious classes, and my hectic work schedule.

I want to say that you can still have a life without sex in your marriage. Although sex is a very important part of married life, but women being multi-taskers, we can still carry on.

I have kept in touch with a male friend from high school. At times, we find ourselves still attracted to each other. But at what cost?

We don't want to complicate our lives any further and the last thing we want our kids to ask is, “How could you do that to us?”

Get in touch with your classmates, indulge in a hobby, get a job, do some charity work, enjoy what the world has to offer you and what you can offer in return. I’m sure there are many souls out there whom you can reach and bring happiness to.

Desperate-Turned-Happy Wife

The Star/Asia News Network