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Three myths about the Singapore woman
by Skilldo

If you are a male and still single, you may probably have heard these myths about Singaporean women, or even more likely, you may have used them at some point in your dating career.


Myth #1: Singapore girls are harder to approach

It's highly likely the guy who believe this has probably approached less than than 10 women in his life.

Here's the fact: if you have walked up to and chatted with enough women, you will find plenty of highly responsive ones.

Sure, there are girls who have their noses in the air. If that happens to you, simply turn away and speak to another lady. There is really nothing hard about it.

Never use limited references from just a few approaches to become the overall verdict about women.

In the end, it's NOT that S'pore females are harder to talk to. Instead, it has got to do with how much a guy is preventing himself from going up to a girl to break the ice.


Myth #2: Women in Singapore have very high standards for men

I won't totally disagree with this point, but hear me out.

Women all have standards. They all have "wants".

In terms of the type of man they want, they say - "I want a guy to have this, I want a guy to have that."

But when you attract a lady enough (even if you don't fit the description of what she says she want), she will still be happy being with you.

I know women who say they want good-looking guys, but end up with common-looking ones.  I also know women who say they want to get a rich guy and be a 'tai-tai' - haven't we all heard that before? - but end up with ordinary salaried males.

Of course, we also know examples of rich guys getting beautiful women, but I can tell you surely that for every "rich guy gets girl" example there is out there, I can show you two more cases of "ordinary guy gets girl".

And as a personal example of someone who's heard it before, there are women who say they will only consider tall men, but end up with partners who do not fit that bill.

Note:I happen to be living this reality. My current girlfriend made it clear that she preferred tall guys when I first met her.

Well, I'm at best average height and could have taken what she said as final. But I didn't.

If one knows what attraction is all about, he should not be bothered by what a lady says she wants.


Myth #3: All the pretty/nice ones are taken


Not true.

Maybe if you said that the hot ones are more in demand, then it's correct. But when it comes to them confirmed as being taken, then that is not the case.

As we speak, countless pretty and/or nice ladies are still holding onto their single status.

Again, this relates closely to being limited by a certain view.

People who think all the good ones are taken obviously has not socialised enough.

They observe the six gorgeous girls in their office who are all attached, and conclude that there is no one else left for them.

But if a man gets to know a lot of fine-looking women from different places, they will invariably  find a large number of them who are single and 'still looking'.

Never be fenced up by what you're faced with. The entire Singapore is your girl-getting arena.


About the writer:

Skilldo is an 'ex-unhappy' Singaporean guy - who grew from being lonely,dateless and single... into breaking out of it, and obtained a fulfilling social life in meeting, dating and entering satisfying relationships with women.

He is the author of 'The Ultimate Singapore Girl-Getter'. A locally-focused guide for Singapore men to approach, date and successfully attract the type of women they want for themselves.

He maintains a website containing secrets and training for men at -
http://www.seductionsingapore.com

readers' comments
Respect shd be a 2-way street bet. genders. Generally S'pore women are a manipulative, cunning lot. It's not entirely their fault of course if they're selfish, materialistic or lack any sense of thankfulness - its the environment that alter their 'personality' & vanity. They want this & they want that, they desire this or they want that. Of course not all S'porean women, in fact some are worse...
Posted by chieftain on Thu, 2 Jul 2009 at 10:19 AM
some cheesy crap book just to earn money again....
Posted by Mei Mei on Wed, 1 Jul 2009 at 00:50 AM
dun like that say Singapore girls leh....i say if a man has to look outside of Singapore to get a wife...or think so,probably there is something 'wrong' with them...
Posted by melvin02 on Wed, 1 Jul 2009 at 00:44 AM
dont know this article is all about what a woman wants? did the author ask what man wants? the issue is really why would a woman have so many wants before even meeting a man? you build these invisible barriers for what? now we are talking about equality and here we are given a list of wants.

what about giving friendship a go without any conditions? if you cannot be a lover, you can always be a friend.

the issue is the upbringing of singaporeans and competitive pressure has made a lot of woman not very friendly/haughty and full of expectations. at any public place, you can identify who are the sg women by the way they dress, talk etc. they are not so friendly and polite like thai ladies.

we have to understand singapore environment is making relationship very .....
Posted by EnigmaE on Tue, 30 Jun 2009 at 23:34 PM
Wonder what the women have to say should they see these comments. Is it any surprise they're marrying later, or not at all?
Posted by lightasacloud on Tue, 30 Jun 2009 at 20:32 PM
Girls are fickle minded. SG girls date one and the next to find the better one than their predecessors. They stop when find a fat guy= rich.
Posted by Kass_007 on Tue, 30 Jun 2009 at 20:26 PM
I think most woman at its most basic forms are the same. However, its environment and upbringing does mould the final persona of the woman. How one woman is brought up in its respective environment will determine how feminine and virtous the woman will be.

Its just unforunate that the singapore environment is not that condusive.

You can't fault the Singapore woman if she does not know what is expected of her to be a good wife and mother.

Blame it on the media and the bigger Singapore's social cultural.
Posted by nchong on Tue, 30 Jun 2009 at 19:34 PM
Was told by our parent in the 50's that Malaysia girls were much better than Singaporean girls.

Malaysia girls are more tender, soft spoken, a good cook, more romantic and also serve their husband very well indeed....................
Posted by wibi91 on Tue, 30 Jun 2009 at 19:12 PM
I'm a Singaporean male chinese who dated Singaporean women and had Singaporean girlfriends. My current girlfriend is Thai and in my opinion, her nationality had little to do with her personality (except the fact that she is still conservative due to her roots). I met my partner while I was travelling in Thailand, with intentions to make friends internationally. I believe women, regardless of nationality will have specific demands that is correlated to their background and social experience. This is why I encourage our guys to view them with a non-bias perspective.
I find it childish to brand a Singaporean woman as the lesser woman, materialistic and less desirable as compared to a Vietnamese bride. Do note that foreign brides flock to Singapore for a better life (at $8,000 payable in monthly instalments too), which do not always represent their need to find true love. It is also questionable .....
Posted by keithwang5 on Tue, 30 Jun 2009 at 17:54 PM
Haha...if you can even get within 10 m radius of Megan Fox, I say you kow tow to Singaporean women. You guys are just sour grapes... no wonder Singaporean women go for FT.
Posted by Magenta on Tue, 30 Jun 2009 at 17:36 PM

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