Consider these words for a moment -
The biggest reason why a guy is unable to talk or act powerfully in front of a woman is because he feels she is worth more than he is.
He believes she is superior to him (due to her beauty, intellect, etc) and he feels there is a lot he must catch up with in order for her to accept him.
Usually, a guy in this position would do all he can for the girl - carry out tasks for her, run errands for her, in other words, wanting desperately her to know how far he will run for her, and hope that doing all he can for her will cover up the difference he feels between both him and her.
But the truth is when a man feels like a lesser being than a woman and SHE detects it, his chances of attracting her becomes zero.
She will not like him NO MATTER how hard he tries.
That's where the term "trying too hard" comes from.
Think about it - most guys who try too hard are usually the ones who attempt to balance out some perceived lack in the relationship.
On the other hand, when a man projects a self-image which says he DOES NOT feel lesser than the gal, then there's no need for him to even try to tilt the relationship in his favour.
This is what separates the 'chasers' - those who constantly want to carry out tasks for women and kowtow to them - from the 'attracters' - those who draw women in with their manliness.
During interactions, women naturally gravitate towards a man when she gets a feeling he has a very healthy and STRONG personal worth of himself.
That's a part of self-confidence where YOU ENJOY BEING YOU. (Take special note here).
That means, you don't look down on anyone for nothing, and at the same time, you DON'T feel of lesser worth compared to anyone else.
Ask any Singapore woman who's not afraid to say it like it is and she'll tell you -- she would choose a man with a strong sense of self anyday over someone without.
On another related point - never play the 'pity-card' with any woman. Translation: Don't try to make a girl sympathise with what you do for her and hope that she will 'take you in'.
I used to know a gentleman who poisoned his chances with his sympathy-inducing antics. He told the girl he was courting how he had caught a cold while running in the rain to buy a magazine for her and how he lost sleep and got depressed over her.
The result?
The lady avoided him like the plague.
You just can't guilt a woman into liking you. The type of manliness required to 'hot-wire' a woman's liking for you CANNOT co-exist with the lesser pity-card.
Think about it - If there's a girl whom you're not fond of, but willingly comes to your house to cook dinner for you daily, pay your
handphone bills and tellyou how sexy you are, would you be moved by the things she do?
Most likely.
But since you are not attracted to her, would you take her to be your girlfriend?
Guess not.
By the same token, if a guy NEGLECTS to establish attraction and attempts to begin a relationship by doing all sorts of goody-goody stuff for a woman, she may be touched by the stuff the guy do. But that doesn't mean she will like the guy. In all likelihood, she may even lose respect for him.
That's right. Attraction has to take place first.
Guys who don't know how to attract a woman will use the pity-card first because that's what they think would work, whereas a man who figures out attraction will instinctively understand that appealing to her sympathetic side does not fit into the "guy-gal bonding process" anywhere.
And he wouldn't bother to pull out the pity-card at all.
About the writer:
Skilldo is an 'ex-unhappy' Singaporean guy - who grew from being lonely,
dateless and single... into breaking out of it, and obtained a fulfilling
social life in meeting, dating and entering satisfying relationships with
women.
He is the author of 'The Ultimate Singapore Girl-Getter'. A
locally-focused guide for Singapore men to approach, date and successfully
attract the type of women they want for themselves.
He maintains a website containing secrets and training for men at -
http://www.seductionsingapore.com
