I'M in my late 20s and hold a senior position in a financial institution. Recently, I fell in love with a married woman whom I have known for a year. She is my colleague and is two years older than me. She married her boyfriend after knowing him for four years. She is close to me and caring, that is why I fell for her. I see her almost every day at work.

I've always placed career as my top priority but ever since I started having feelings for her, I haven't been able to focus on my work or sleep well at night. I keep thinking of a future with her.

I even considered confessing to her but was afraid it would destroy our current relationship, or even damage her marriage.

I'm caught between my career and her. Will I have a future with her? Will it affect my career if I leave? Please advise.

Caught In The Middle

HOW can you have a future with a woman who is only close and caring to a younger colleague? As she has never indicated more than friendship and professional interest, you will only jeopardise your career if you lose concentration and focus.

You can hurt your future if you do not leave. Falling in love with a happily married woman is living a fool's dream. If you continue to see her every day, your heart and mind will play up feelings and emotions. Especially so because she is not available. The forbidden morsel is ever so much more tantalising and desirable. And you are a man who is hungry for success and rewards. She is a challenge you find irresistible right now.

You will have no problems getting a better job or a sweet girl who is single and free. Do not lose sight of your personal goals, and set yourself more tasks and challenges. Channel your energy into driving your career. Date more women, learn to relax and have a good time outside work. When you are not constantly with the same person who seems to fill your days and dreams, you will feel less intense and emotional.