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Mon, Feb 01, 2010
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Are men threatened by successful women?

In Chinese folklore, girls born in Tiger years seem to be cursed. They bring bad luck upon themselves, to their families and even to their husbands' families.

I, as a "tiger girl", am a little bit offended by this. Though I don't believe the old sayings, I could not stop wondering why the Chinese ancestors had such hateful thoughts for tiger girls thousands of years ago.

Then, I read a theory about "surplus women", referring to those who were approaching their 30s.

In the theory, all men and women are classified into four categories: A, B, C and D from the elite class to the bottom class. And it works like this: A class men marry B class women, B class men stay with C class women, then C class men choose D class women.

In the end, A class women can either end up alone or go out with D class men. If they don't want to compromise themselves with D class men, they become "surplus women".

It turns out that the main reason "surplus women" become "surplus" is they are too successful.

If the theory is true, all the years of study and hard work may just put a lot of women on an express train to the hell.

I couldn't help wondering why men don't like A class women until my friend told me her recent experience of a blind date.

In the date, my well-educated, well-paid friend successfully scared the man away.

Looking at the brand-name logos all over my friend's body, the man only asked one question: "Do you think I'm good enough for you?"

Most of my circle of friends and acquaintances: ambitious, successful and talented women encounter the same problem.

They are equal, if not superior to, most of the men in their lives.

Facing the achievements made by those women, most men will assume that they have a very high standard for their partners and they must be picky.

The theory is just like the tale of tiger girls. Girls who are born in the year are believed to be fierce, wild and able to control everything - even their husbands.

It is high time that modern men realized successful women are still women.

readers' comments
Lets just face it.

The below fact is true to a VERY large extent.
MAN ARE SCARED OF SUCCESSFUL WOMEN.

The below are also true to a certain extent
Man like beautiful and slim women.
Man like women who takes care of family.
Women like rich and successful men.
Women like tall and handsome men.

Women may argue that the above may not be true and why guys are so superficial etc
Yes, this may not be true only to a small extent but most are saying it only to defend the the fairer sex

Women can continue to argue that successful women are also women who needs love just like any other women.
The fact is that they are most likely to be left on the shelf till .....
Posted by BryanSkywalker on Thu, 28 Jan 2010 at 15:56 PM


Your friend's insecurity by needing to wear logos all over is obvious and unattractive to most men. She need to realize that he's just brushing her off tactfully.

BTW, really successful women usually don't need to scream for attention by draping themselves with objects of conspicuous consumption.
Posted by red_velvia on Thu, 28 Jan 2010 at 11:22 AM
Does the sentence "It is high time that modern men realized successful women are still women." suggest something about the desire to control?

And "Most of my circle of friends and acquaintances: ambitious, successful and talented women .... They are equal, if not superior to, most of the men in their lives" seem to suggest that women who share this view already have an issue with men who are not of equal or higher standing.

Given a choice, who, man/woman, would choose a partner who likes to complain, compare and do not share a common goal to have a long, happy marriage. The tell-tale signs of a fully decorated "$$ logos" on a woman do imply something about material pursuit, lack of self confident and a desire for attention (constant and not restricted to one). Her focus point is and will always .....
Posted by Justsharingmyview on Thu, 28 Jan 2010 at 10:48 AM
Dear AsiaOne Diva

First of all, all human beings are born equal. That is why I disliked the likes of Prince and Princess and what not.

2nd, all human beings have a chance to make it in life. Be it in career or love. It CANNOT have anything to do with which zodiac year your were born in. No sir. No madam.

3rd, a successful person is NOT judged by the brand names all over his or her BODY!! That is a maaterialistic person way to judge!! Got it?

4th, when a man asked a 'successful' lady if 'he is good enough for her?' Just give an answer and if it is a 'NO!'; it should not scare him away. Yes? No?

5th, the writer should be a LOT offended by this 'tiger girl' thingy .....
Posted by Lukeehong on Thu, 28 Jan 2010 at 09:53 AM
Looking at the brand-name logos all over my friend's body, the man only asked one question: "Do you think I'm good enough for you?"

A man is only interested in who is going to look after his children at home when he is away. And he is going to marry someone more down to earth, hands on, willing to get fingers dirty, wipe baby's poo i.e Village girls from china and vietnam.

The man is only being polite. He is self-effacing. The writer obviously has no clue. Very typical of modern girls: believes the world revolves around them, males must bend to the girl's desires. Wake up. Males can have sex with prostitutes and OTHER MALES.
Posted by cylon6 on Thu, 28 Jan 2010 at 09:48 AM

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