JACK, 29, ENTERTAINER
As an entertainer, I’ve always had many female fans or, as the industry calls them, groupies.
Two years ago, a female fan started showing up at every performance.
After two months of seeing her in the crowd, I went over after a performance to talk to her.
She was 23 when we met. Slim and slender, she was sexier and more attractive than my girlfriend was.
We started talking and exchanged phone numbers. At that time, I was in a committed relationship with my girlfriend of three years.
I started hanging out more often with the woman and we became fast friends. I even introduced her to my girlfriend.
It was not until a year ago that things started to get complicated.
After a night out drinking with our friends, I took her home as she was feeling tipsy. She invited me in.
We started talking and drinking more.
One thing led to another and I ended up spending the night.
I was guilt-stricken the next day and we decided to cool things off.
However, I realised that I had started to develop feelings for her.
My girlfriend is great but had wanted to save herself for marriage.
We had promised each other that we’d wait before we have sex.
The other woman was readily available and staying away from sex was harder than I’d imagined.
Being with her was always about sex. We would meet up about three times a week on the pretext of hanging out or going for dinner.
I didn’t think much about it because I was not in love with her.
I love my girlfriend. I just found it hard to curb my physical needs.
We continued our affair for about a year. My friends started to notice that I was spending a lot of time with her and confronted me.
I never admitted that I was sleeping with her.
Even my girlfriend noticed the change in my behaviour. I had stopped calling her at night after my shows – something I always did before the affair.
It was not till three months ago that I finally realised that what I was doing was not healthy for my relationship.
My girlfriend and I were moving on to another stage and I saw myself wanting to spend my life with her.
The other woman and I talked about our affair and where it was going.
We both agreed that the attraction was purely physical and nothing more could develop from it.
She knows how much I adore my girlfriend.
Slowly, we stopped seeing each other and she decided to stop coming for my shows so often. I ended things after a while.
About two months ago, I proposed to my girlfriend.
She still has no clue about the affair and I don’t think I will ever tell her about it.
I love her too much to see her hurt by my irresponsible actions.
Will I stray again?
I’m not sure I can answer that question for certain.
I cannot control the future but I can say that I will try not to place myself in such compromising situations again.
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Have guts, tell us your real name please.
maybe earthquake will come to sg and we will be all dead, no more screwing each other. problem solve.
Trying to tell the world that Singaporeans are far more open than any other human race on the planet called earth!
Or is that there is no other news that could be reported or not to be reported?
Totally numb skull!
a) In one sentence, you write "However, I realised that I had started to develop feelings for her." A few lines later, you say this: "Being with her was always about sex. [....]I didnât think much about it because I was not in love with her."
WTF.
b) You wrote: "My girlfriend is great but had wanted to save herself for marriage. We had promised each other that weâd wait before we have sex." You made a promise to your fiance and consciously agreed to the abstinence and now it's a "BUT" and your excuse for cheating?? WHAT A JERK. If you had needed sex, the 1st person you should have approached was your gf. You should .....
Btw, it's not called "love" if you have an affair behind your gf back.