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I'm not heartless for leaving China wife
by Ho Lian-Yi

HE MARRIED a China woman just two weeks after meeting her in 2005. Earlier this week, he divorced her.

Not because of infidelity or a falling out, but because the woman was expelled from Singapore for previous immigration offences and can no longer come back.

The woman had pleaded with him not to divorce her. But Singaporean taxi driver Vincent Ng, 45, doesn’t think that he’s being heartless.

After all, when his ex-wifeMadamGuan was deported in 2007, he had spent nearly two years appealing to the authorities to let her back in.

He did not wish to migrate to be with her.

So, he believes he is just being practical – he has a new girlfriend now and wants to move on with his life.

The saga began in June 2005, when the two got married within a fortnight after being introduced by a mutual friend.

Mr Ng said he needed a wife because his mother was unwell. As they hit it off, he didn’t want to waste time. This is despite Madam Guan, 39, telling him that she had previously been jailed for about a month and deported for immigration offences in 2001.

She had not declared that fact in her visa application, he said. “I told her to surrender,” said Mr Ng and he claimed that the two of them went to the Immigration and Checkpoints Authority (ICA) where she admitted she had a criminal record.

“The officer said she was very honest and so gave her a chance,” he claimed. He said she was given a one-month extension for her stay.

He said he later applied for and got a long-term social visit pass for six months.

For 11/2 years, he lived with her and her young son from a previous marriage in a four-room flat in Toa Payoh.

But in January 2007, he said his wife was detained by police in a raid at a massage parlour. She was allegedly working without a work permit. He said she was referred to ICA.

Barred from coming here

Immigration officers told them that Madam Guan could not remain in Singapore as she had previously been barred from coming here.

Madam Guan returned home to Nanping, in the Fujian province of China,on 28 Jan 2007, he said.

He also claimed that his wife had previously worked as a prostitute – an allegation that she has denied.

Mr Ng said he appealed for a visa for her, but when he realised there was no chance of getting a reprieve, he asked for a divorce earlier this year.

For nine months, Madam Guan refused to agree to a divorce as she still had hopes of saving her marriage. He claimed he had spent $6,000 on legal fees to try and get a divorce – which is close to his four months’ salary.

It was only this week that Madam Guan signed on the dotted line, “I was angry she made me waste a lot of money,” he said.

Madam Guan told The New Paper on Sunday that from 2000 to 2001, she stayed in Singapore illegally and worked without a permit. She claimed she did so to avoid an abusive, alcoholic husband in China –whom she divorced in 2001 – and to pay off debts.

As for whether she was a prostitute, she exclaimed: “Definitely not. That guy is too much. I think he thinks all China girls are like that.” She did odd jobs, like helping in hawker stalls and giving out flyers, she claimed.

She was eventually caught by the authorities. At the time, she could not produce her passport in court because she had left it with a “friend” who did not give it back to her, she claimed.

She was eventually deported.

Madam Guan changed her passport in 2005 and returned to Singapore that year.

She claimed that the only reason she changed her passport in 2005 was that the law in China required her to do so every five years.

She alleged that she had not mentioned her first conviction when she returned because her cousin had helped her fill up the visa application, and she did not tell her cousin about it.

She still hopes to return to Singapore and start a family with Mr Ng.

“I like Singapore a lot and I have a lot friends here, and I love the environment,” she said.

This article was first published in The New Paper.

readers' comments
In short, Singapore men kinda sucks. What kind of baloney is NS churching our men into?? I think it just a ritual passageway that breaks our men's spirit and turns them basically into some demented form of moron - can't lead, can't protect, can't be responsible basically..
Posted by RedDotter1 on Wed, 23 Dec 2009 at 13:34 PM
many singaporean just wanted to make money from foreigner.They married and told the girl work for them --just like collect rental.When the girl got caught ,they get another one.They dare to tell the world.混帐!
Posted by malaysiachin on Wed, 23 Dec 2009 at 13:26 PM
People everywhere are getting divorces what...he married her to make his ailing mother happy and he did provide for her during their marriage.
Posted by toloveistolie on Tue, 22 Dec 2009 at 16:25 PM
Prostitutes are human too. Nobody would like to be one unless she has no choice. Prostitution had been in existence for thousands of years and it is an honest way to earn a living. It is definitely better than to cheat or rob people of their hard earn money. You want to buy and she will sell - a fair trade. So, marrying a prostitute who wants to turn over a new leaf, is like helping someone in trouble.
I like someone who said, "It's alright to marry a prostitute as a wife ..... but not turning a wife into a prostitute. Well said !!!
Posted by DuLichDat on Tue, 22 Dec 2009 at 11:14 AM
i don't know why but i don't feel tt bad for the woman. i mean srsly, you shldn't be marrying a guy after knowing him for 2 weeks. and she should also know (like duh) tt working illegally in singapore is a big no-no! anw, the guy's not tt big of a deal. he was just using her to look after his sick mum. i think she wins in the long-run.
Posted by smokeytambam on Tue, 22 Dec 2009 at 11:03 AM
was a dysfunctional marriage;he needed someone to take care of sick mother AND (of course) sex too, while she accorded requirements was at the same time not forgoing monetary accumulation, for how much can he give or possibly give that could be acceptably acknowledged by both.

it is alright to marry a prostitute and provide her with a better family life BUT not turn a wife into a prostitute. a real man will never stoop so low!
Posted by lanpawhy on Tue, 22 Dec 2009 at 10:10 AM
A true relationship between a husband and wife should not be based on exploitation of monetary, service gains or profession. They should love each other whether " in health or in sickness, in wealth or in poverty, and to cherish one another, till death do they part". After a guy has achieved his objective and start to foul mouth his dearest one, then the sincerity and truthfulness is questionable. The taxi driver should just appreciate quietly that his china is trying to earn an extra income, whether working as a masseuse or prostitute before. You accept a person for what she is. What the heck ! Why does society scorn on prostitutes and masseuses ? They are also making an honest living. They also shed their tears, swaet and blood, energy to massage the clients and rejuvenate their bodies. They also sacrifice their chastity and feelings for their loved ones. .....
Posted by mountaingoat on Tue, 22 Dec 2009 at 09:23 AM
Well, good things dont post up here.But i can say it is not about the nationality but rather the person. I am happily married to a china wife with 2 kids and the same for her sister who is now a s'pore citizen and her husband, a singaporean, now with 3 kids.First of all, the lady should not be working without a permit and if she want to work in order to earn money, for goodness sake, not in massage parlour.
Posted by Parkings on Tue, 22 Dec 2009 at 09:02 AM
I think the gal having problem because been barred to singapore. But marry the gal after 2 week that is a big big problems (2 week only). Even do bring her to singapore sure she will cause a lot of problems from what i see from the story. I see the gal motive is come to singapore and i don't think she will take care the mother in long terms.

I see a case similar like this case. The PRC wife always causing trouble for he Singaporean husband like everyday argue because of the flat ownership,chasing the husband daughter and son away, plan to sell the house and keep saying want to go back china once she have some money.Very very terible.
Posted by samtkt2000 on Tue, 22 Dec 2009 at 08:33 AM
i just don't think that guy is heartless,rather he is usingher to served his purpose here, especially when i read using to help her sick mother,under the circumstances i think he is right in divorcing her,you goto check the girl background from china, yes she could have being a prostitute,but so what people can change,in many a time people changed for the better,if what she said is correct than she must be a very hard a qwy that guy is also silly not to make full used of her working for you to bring home abit of extra income.hi i would gladlyhave such a woman with me,why not she can worked hard for me while i go enjy myself.
Posted by ryanmil51 on Tue, 22 Dec 2009 at 07:13 AM

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