I am sure we have all encountered one or more women who have the looks and personality which belong to that certain callibre of women that you like.

And most probably you'd know quite instantly that if you feel your heartbeat increasing, you want to walk right up to one of these women, whisk them away on a date.

Question is, even when you want it, are there times you stop yourself from taking that step and going further?

Or can you recall more occasions in which you actually took action?

More often than not, the typical guy would stop himself from doing anything when he comes across the woman he desires.

If you find yourself like that, it is not entirely your fault.

And why is that?

See, the human mind has a natural inclination to think negatively. It tends to give itself reasons - or excuses - for how things will not work out.

For instance, when a guy sees a gorgeous girl alone at a bus stop, he would want to walk up her and talk to her, but the mind says these things:

"Better not, a girl like her is sure to have a boyfriend..."

"If people see me talking to her, they'll think I'm desperate or something..."

"What if she ignores me? Then what?"

The mind comes up with a million reasons to justify why it might be a bad idea to prevent us from acting impulsively.

But be extremely careful, because too much of the negativity breeds a defeatist mentality.

A guy with such a mindset and attitude will keep giving himself "discouraging evidence" on why he will not succeed with girls. Well, he could very well be placed among a stadium full of women but he will still tell himself that he would fail with each of them.

So, is there any way out of this 'loser' mentality?

You bet! And it is a simple one, really.

All you got to do is to put yourself in the shoes of a man who "has his way" with women and adopt his mindset.

From personal experience, the men I know who lead enjoyable lives with fantastic girls are always scanning for the "hot sutff" and on the lookout for opportunities with women.

Using the same example of seeing a girl at a bus stop alone, these men will not be thinking about how it wouldn't work, but rather how much enjoyment can be gained from talking to this girl.

With a mindset like that, there is no room for discouragement, no room for self-doubt to creep in as the man approaches his target.

You can see it as "mental strength"; the mind is strong enough to not let anything that kills chances with women interfere.

It is all about how you "adjust" your mindset. It can be conditioned to your advantage or disadvantage.

This is why some guys give up hopes of ever netting a date, while others have an amazingly good hand with women.

This is why some guys are always griping about pretty girls being taken up, and yet another guy ends up with a gorgeous babe tonight.

When you allow yourself rooms for some mindset adjustment, Singapore can be a very "prosperous" place full of 'succeed-with-women' opportunities everyday.

About the writer:

Skilldo is an 'ex-unhappy' Singaporean guy - who grew from being lonely, dateless and single... into breaking out of it, and obtained a fulfilling social life in meeting, dating and entering satisfying relationships with women.

He is the author of 'The Ultimate Singapore Girl-Getter'. A locally-focused guide for Singapore men to approach, date and successfully attract the type of women they want for themselves.

He maintains a website containing secrets and training for men at - http://www.seductionsingapore.com