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I'm 43 & I enjoy sex parties

I’M a single mother with two children who are in secondary school. I’m 43, beautiful, smart and have a secure job. I enjoy sexy dresses, alcohol and sex parties.

Two years ago, my husband dumped me after finding out that I’d had sex with a colleague. I admit that was all my fault.

I didn’t have much time for him and our children, especially during the weekends, because my company always organised parties then. My ex-husband would scold me in front of the kids whenever I came home. It was very embarrassing.

I think he was jealous about my enjoying the parties. Maybe he suspected that I was having affairs with other attractive guys.

I regret my past mistakes and sins. I would like to repent and, hopefully, meet a mature man and be a good wife. Do you think I can find Mr Right with my record? Do you think he will accept me and my children too?

People say second-hand love lacks quality and will not last. How can I be more dedicated to the family, and honest and sincere to my future husband?

Desperate Single Mother

Response from Thelma:

FRANKLY, no one can teach you to be honest, sincere and dedicated to loved ones and family. If you still enjoy being a drunken, sexy party animal, then there is little chance of your getting a decent man for a husband.

Sleeping around and cheating on your husband was very wrong. Leaving your family alone while you partyed and had fun was selfish and irresponsible. Blaming your husband for feeling jealous and embarrassing you in front of your kids showed that you were not remorseful.

How did you expect your husband to react to a wife who dressed like a sexpot, slept around and neglected him and his children?

Regretting your mistakes and sins seems the first right move on your part. But fretting over being regarded as second-hand woman is silly and ignorant. If you can find the right man to share your future, he should understand and accept your past and your children.

A marriage is a special commitment that should not abused and trifled with. Respect your man and yourself. Settle down, grow up and understand that having fun is fine as long as you do not compromise the trust and happiness of your man and children.

readers' comments
aiyoh so slutty.. no wonder your ***** so stinko! so how now? got cobwebs in your vagina? got clear or not? 100 cocks a day also not enough
Posted by chinkchongfan on Thu, 19 Nov 2009 at 10:00 AM
What others' main concerns are the rights of the kids. They thought a mother should not risk her health to satisfy her thirst for alcohol and wild sexual desires. Human being get wiser by learning from others. But some may choose to experiment to learn. For example, a young steward who had HIV was asked to spoke against casual sex. People including me was 100% convinced, Casual sex is something we can avoid to keep away from HIV. But others may want to experiment to see if they would catch HIV by having regular casual sex. It is a personal choice. But alcohol can fail a careful mind in driving and so in safe sex. One can still experiment to see if it is correct. If not for the mother's kids and their future, who care?
Posted by last_laugh on Fri, 13 Nov 2009 at 10:44 AM
Seems to me you're all being a bit hard on her. Clearly her original marriage was ill-suited to her needs and character. Maybe now that she's free, she can find a new husband who has similar tastes. Then it's a win-win situation. My husband and I occasionally attend swinger parties and we find that it spices up our own marriage immensely. It's a big world and there's nothing wrong with following what you want, as long it doesn't break laws. Of course, you should be safe with your body too - but everyone knows about safe sex these days. Anyone who tells you otherwise is just narrowminded. I applaud her for being brave enough to follow her heart and libido. If more people did that, we wouldn't have so many unhappy marriages out there.
Posted by JoJo_Huang on Thu, 12 Nov 2009 at 14:55 PM
Seems to me you're all being a bit hard on her. Clearly her original marriage was ill-suited to her needs and character. Maybe now that she's free, she can find a new husband who has similar tastes. Then it's a win-win situation. My husband and I occasionally attend swinger parties and we find that it spices up our own marriage immensely. It's a big world and there's nothing wrong with following what you want, as long it doesn't break laws. Of course, you should be safe with your body too - but everyone knows about safe sex these days. Anyone who tells you otherwise is just narrowminded. I applaud her for being brave enough to follow her heart and libido. If more people did that, we wouldn't have so many unhappy marriages out there.
Posted by JoJo_Huang on Thu, 12 Nov 2009 at 14:36 PM
You are worse than a dog or a cat rather, tirelessly inviting for 'free' sex. Might as well work as pros at Geylang, got some income too....
Posted by lauhelow on Thu, 12 Nov 2009 at 14:36 PM
you behave just like a beast,simply sleeps around.
even a guy like me could resist temptations,i see no reason a MOTHER like u cant! the reason is simlpe,u've got no life.
if u really feel remorseful,start doing something about it.
wish u luck.
Posted by 69355407 on Thu, 12 Nov 2009 at 11:01 AM
Got shadow or not? For a Mrs. Wild so accustomed to wild parties to sober up so suddenly - sure got problem. Kenna played out after one of those wild one night stand. So kneejerk reaction to say that "I have changed." How long before you go back to your wild ways. Don't hurt another man/family if you can't stay straight for the rest of your life.
Posted by sandstone1 on Thu, 12 Nov 2009 at 10:58 AM
I don't know what you went through when you were a young girl. The reason you are the way you are is because of the background that was a very confusing one when you were young. Your only solution or salvation depends on one very important question,...... and that is DO YOU REALLY LOVE YOUR CHILDREN?? What kind of growing up do you want them to look back on? Do you want your children to be secure human beings or very bitter and angry people later on. If you have a daughter and her childhood is not secure, she will end up doing what you are doing. THE REAL QUESTION IS HOW MUCH DO YOU LOVE YOUR CHILDREN or ARE YOU A SELF-CENTRED PERSON WHO WILL ONLY PUT YOURSELF FIRST AND THEM & EVERYONE ELSE LAST???? How much you love them will decide your decision! Regards.
Posted by myfivecentsworth on Wed, 11 Nov 2009 at 21:47 PM
Once a sexpot, forever a sexpot.

43, and beautiful. Nah ! Big liar, continue to lie,
and live your carefree lifestyle.
Posted by kyotykcaj on Wed, 11 Nov 2009 at 16:26 PM
what is the issue here? this is no more new. wake up!!! woman nowadays are more open than man especially with so many woman want to have a nice physical fun ..fuddies or whatever u call it again. Most people got what they want from online www.singaporee.com just have fun..life is short especially in this stressful place
Posted by workinginchina on Wed, 11 Nov 2009 at 16:15 PM

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