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How to get lucky with women
by Skilldo

I used to behave like this in the past - whenever I see some dude who looks kind of dog-faced walking hand in hand with a pretty lady,  I would think he was just lucky.

That's right. I would brush it off as "luck", thinking that dude just happened to be born in an auspicious year or something.

And that almost gave me a big excuse to avoid finding out what it is that attracts the gorgeous girls to such plain-looking men.

Fortunately for me, I decided to investigate this phenomenon before coming to this conclusion - with women and dating, luck is often misunderstood.

If you talk to some of your male friends,  you can easily tell who has figured out how to get lucky with women, and who are the ones still in the dark by their responses.

The guy who does not have any clue will see it as him being unlucky after talking to just one girl and getting rejected.

In reality, the real 'switch-on button' for luck requires you to spread out your chances with many women.

Look at it this way: luck is measured by the different women you talk to. A portion of them will respond well and a portion will not.

And based on those who responded well, your luck occurs and grows in that group of females.

So your luck with women increases as you get to know and interact with more women.

Another thing - there are guys who hold back their luck with women when they require time to recover after an uninterested response from one girl.

A typical example:

- Guy talks to lady.
- She's not keen.
- He feels crappy about the incident.
- So he stops himself from talking to another girll because he needs to recover from his 'bad mood'.

A lot of precious effort is spent that way. I say this because the same amount of time and energy in recovering can be used to connect with another woman.

So understand the process. There is no need to sulk or beat yourself up if one girl decides you are not interesting to her. Simply move on to the next lady, interact with her and you will automatically recover from your previous failed encounter.

In almost every case, a man gets lucky in situations when he skillfully reduces internal blocks in himself to meet enough women, and subsequently boosts his attractiveness level with other girls he will meet.

About the writer:

Skilldo is an 'ex-unhappy' Singaporean guy - who grew from being lonely, dateless and single... into breaking out of it, and obtained a fulfilling social life in meeting, dating and entering satisfying relationships with women.

He is the author of 'The Ultimate Singapore Girl-Getter'. A locally-focused guide for Singapore men to approach, date and successfully attract the type of women they want for themselves.

He maintains a website containing secrets and training for men at -

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