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I feel so guilty
by Charlene Chua

On the surface, she looks like the mummy who has it all.

An enviable post-pregnancy figure, a caring husband and a three-year-old daughter who is the love of her life.

But local celebrity Jamie Yeo's gorgeous exterior hides a painful secret.

Her body - lauded by her peers as perfect - had failed her when she needed it most.

For the first time, she talked about the emotional pain she went through after giving birth in 2010.

Little Alysia, whom Yeo calls Aly, was born 10 weeks premature, weighing 1.2kg and measuring 36cm.

The 36-year-old was devastated when she couldn't produce enough breast milk to feed her baby - especially when Aly really needed the nutrition only a mother could give.

For six months, Aly was fed a mixture of breast milk and formula.

She was put on full formula when Yeo stopped producing breast milk after that.

The Power 98FM DJ said doctors told her that giving birth prematurely may have affected her lactation.

She told The New Paper: "I cried about it and I felt so guilty.

"When Aly was born, she was so small, it was heart-wrenching.

"We didn't know if she would survive, and that was something that we let hang over our heads but didn't talk about.

"Breast milk was so important to her because it's nature's customised nutrition from a mother to a child.

"I beat myself up about it again and again."

Yeo resorted to drinking all sorts of medicinal soups and even wanted to take medicine to force her body to produce more milk.

Nothing worked.

The guilt ate at her as she visited her baby in hospital twice a day during the first two months.

She said: "It broke my heart seeing Aly lying in the hospital with all these tubes sticking out of her.

"I know, logically, that it's not my fault that I couldn't feed her, but that didn't stop me from feeling upset about it."

Even though Aly has grown into an adorable, talkative toddler, Yeo said she still has her insecurities.

"Nowadays, I tell myself that I shouldn't give myself that hard a time about what happened. But I still feel bad when I can't spend a lot of time with Aly these days."

Yeo recalled how, in her first two years of motherhood, she didn't want to leave her house because she couldn't bear to leave her daughter's side.

This is what inspired her to set up shopping website mums.sg two weeks ago.

Mothers who want to work from home can sell their goods - such as handmade jewellery or cupcakes - online, and thus have an income while being with their kids.

Her celebrity friends Jaime Teo, Jacelyn Tay and Carrie Chong, who are also mothers, will also be coming on board and sharing their motherhood experiences on the site.

Yeo, who has been married to Briton Thorsten Nolte for three years, is looking forward to having more children.

"I would love to have three. "Girl or boy, it doesn't matter.

"Aly loves carrying my two-month-old niece and has so much fun with her."


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