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Her pain as a 'prostitute' mum
by Maureen Koh

How does a mother tell her 13-year-old daughter that she is going to be a prostitute?

It's not easy, admits Ms Ye Haiyan.

"I thought about how much I wanted my daughter to know and if I should hide the truth from her, but I decided being honest with my baby was better than hiding or hinting about it," she says.

It helped that shortly after Ms Ye was divorced in 2001, she and her daughter were given a place to stay by a prostitute. Ms Ye didn't have much money then.

Her daughter was then only a year old. The woman was a friend of a friend.

Ms Ye says of her daughter: "She grew up basking in my love and care, but she also saw how I was gradually moving into this area (of being an advocate)."

Once she had confirmed her plan, she sat her now 13-year-old daughter downfor a chat.

"I told her I was going to try and work on this new idea and what I hoped to achieve from it.

"At first, she looked confused. Then she asked me, 'Must you really do it? Isn't it very shameful?'

"In that instant, something shot through my heart but I also knew I wasn't going to give up (on the idea). And I told her that it was important."

To her relief, her daughter told her: "Go ahead then. Just take care of yourself."

Ms Ye believes that her daughter does not fully comprehend the extent of the impact.

"I think she is too young to really understand it. Not that I'm terribly bothered by it because I know for certain that she'd be able to understand the rationale and reason behind it later."

Her voice softens as she shares brief details of her divorce - three years after she was married.

"Midway through my pregnancy, I suspected that my then husband and his ex-girlfriend were having an affair," she recounts.

"I was mad but I waited for the right time and finally caught them in bed one day."

Ms Ye concedes that, like all mothers, she wants the best for her daughter. Which explains why she is worried that her daughter may just take after her.

"I don't want her to be like me, or to follow in my footsteps," she says.

She is, however, confident that her daughter will be able to accept her work as an activist.

Says Ms Ye: "I've not lived a decadent life deliberately. I've tried to live right and I work hard for the money and for my belief.

"I've not done anything to disgrace myself or my child."

But it looks like she may not have much to worry about.

In an interview with Apple Daily last week, Ms Ye's daughter, who was also present, told the reporter: "My mother calls herself Hooligan Yan, but she is not a hooligan.

"She is someone with a big, good heart."

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readers' comments


both also got its own good point lah.

sexy fat mature woman can do many things on you.......whilst cutie pie u have to do it on her........in both cases i also enjoy....:D
Posted by sghunk888 on Sat, 10 Nov 2012 at 14:59 PM


pig not cheap, go to nearest is JB and pay the farmer and in the end more than $100.

sg girls can get free what, i pay $100 very give face already u know? :D
Posted by sghunk888 on Sat, 10 Nov 2012 at 14:56 PM


http://i.imgur.com/Mim0s.gif :D:p
Posted by baoxingtian on Sat, 10 Nov 2012 at 14:12 PM


In my opinion, $100 is too cheap. I think you better stick to the pigs' holes
Posted by Lotteworld on Fri, 9 Nov 2012 at 22:30 PM
Frankly speaking, if there is a willing seller and a willing buyer, it is a fair tarde afterall, although it may not be morally right. But then who is to judge that it is morally wrong if it was done so that someone else can have a better chance in life?...


Posted by kooldog59 on Fri, 9 Nov 2012 at 22:11 PM


how bout i give u $100, u let me poke?:D


guys, u all think i will succeed, she will give it to me? :p
Posted by sghunk888 on Fri, 9 Nov 2012 at 14:52 PM


Even she is free of AIDS, the multiple men she serve might not.
She in spreading more risk to the world.
Posted by hfourhappy on Fri, 9 Nov 2012 at 13:49 PM


Do you even want to consider in the first place? Who cares?:eek:
Posted by Seekeroftruth on Fri, 9 Nov 2012 at 13:38 PM


Guys...i wonder this prc lady gv foc sexxx....is she clean in the first place? I mean HIVS free?
Posted by hfourhappy on Fri, 9 Nov 2012 at 13:36 PM


Uncle XJP very 随便wan.. $20 lao ah ma can already.:eek:
Posted by Seekeroftruth on Fri, 9 Nov 2012 at 13:32 PM

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