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I married a gay man

I met Peter (not his real name) 12 years ago. I was a journalist then, covering an event for Earth Day, and got sound bites from him for my story.

To be honest, he was rather nondescriptlooking, but he struck me as warm and sincere and we hit it off instantly. I wasn’t surprised when he asked for my number. He called the next day and asked me out. That was the start of our whirlwind romance.

He was a true gentleman, picking me up from my office to accompany me home every day.

After a week, he proposed. I was shocked – we barely knew each other and he was my first boyfriend.

Still, I said ‘yes’. He seemed like husband material, and I’d always thought it romantic to marry your first love. I also liked that he came from a close-knit family with loving parents. I thought I was the luckiest girl in the world.

We tied the knot in 2000, six months after he had proposed, but things went wrong from the get-go.

Soon after we moved into our new home, he changed. He started abusing me verbally. He’d say things like ‘That’s not the way to clean the floor!’ whenever I did the housework and scold me relentlessly if I didn’t cook food he liked or the way he liked it.

He even called me ‘ugly’ and ‘smelly’ at times. I didn’t know when he’d have an outburst and that put me on edge all the time.

What upset me the most was that he didn’t want to have sex with me. He didn’t even like hugging or cuddling.

We had agreed to wait until we got married to do the deed as we were both religious, but he only asked me for oral sex. I always did it because I thought it was part of my wifely duties to do as my husband said. I didn’t even get oral sex from him in return.

After several months, I spoke to his mother about our problems.

She suggested we see a psychologist specialising in marriage counselling. I agreed because I didn’t know what to do anymore.

Peter didn’t think anything was wrong but went along because he was afraid of getting a shelling from his mother if he refused. At the seventh session, our psychologist told both of us that he thought Peter was gay.

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readers' comments


I greatly respect happily married women and would rarely even flirt, as I have morals. However, if a cute woman is "estranged" from a generous gay guy I would have to interrogate a bit.

1. When did she last receive ejaculatory release in her vagina?
2. Is her husband a sauna man receiving sweaty bareback?

I know women very well, and if she has not made love for 10+ years, then I would apply some unsparkling mineral water to her genitals and take a look at the situation.:)
Posted by Trouser Press on Fri, 20 Jul 2012 at 20:38 PM
Common practice is 2 endure in silence.
Posted by fei.long on Thu, 19 Jul 2012 at 23:17 PM
oh dear....you have my sympathy...... try to change your husband back to a normal man. you can do it!!!!
Posted by A_Commoner on Thu, 19 Jul 2012 at 23:05 PM


Hardly surprising when it is related to homosexuals.
Posted by Psylence on Thu, 19 Jul 2012 at 22:51 PM
This has got to be one of the most trashy article that I have ever read ... haha...
Posted by mikeyyyy on Thu, 19 Jul 2012 at 17:54 PM


Any recommendation??

Must be good lobang one hor.

Ha..ha..ha..
Posted by xiao.lee on Thu, 19 Jul 2012 at 01:16 AM
Question is does he give you cash and other luxury items?

If yes why complain you can go outside to satisfy maybe even get TP as he sound very technical and useful in this area

If no then leave the dude

It is the same as a guy marry a butch - my advice is to kick them away as soon as possible

There are so many pretty gals whether local or import to choose from

And guys as well to choose from by the gals

Dont do something that have no result

Maximise your time
Posted by Richman8888 on Wed, 18 Jul 2012 at 21:16 PM


My guess is they are intrigued as to the effect of the sphincter "locking-on" to their coronal edge (the bit of the penis where the radius drops down as the bell-end becomes shaft). Please refer to image for a demonstration of a sphincter in practical use:

http://www.david-louis.com/images/products/tea-rubber-16-lg.jpg
Posted by Trouser Press on Wed, 18 Jul 2012 at 20:57 PM
no worries even school principal and teachers are gay and have wives too!
Posted by hehehehahaha on Wed, 18 Jul 2012 at 20:15 PM
It Is Strange That He Can Engaged With Her In A **.
Normally A Gay Would Not Even Have It With Opposite Sex.
Anyway Whatever It Is If He Is Indeed Gay As She Claims, She
Should Be Grateful Because At Least You Know He Will Not Be
Fooling With Other Women Behind Your Back
Posted by AnakSinga on Wed, 18 Jul 2012 at 20:13 PM

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