ON July 11, Thelma had this advice for Confused Cameron Highlands ("Dirty old man", Dear Thelma, Heart & Soul, StarMag): "At this point in your lives, do you still feel the need to watch over a man who is less virile and sexually subdued? If visiting erotic websites is the only way for him to keep his pride and ego up while his libido and prowess wilt, what is your worry?"

When a man's libido wilts, that is precisely the time to worry! Don't forget there's a wide range of drugs to get him up and going.

I was secretly pleased when my 60-year-old husband couldn't "get it up". He seemed to have lost his libido, too, and I believed his flabby physique would prevent him from straying.
Imagine my shock when I discovered that he had shamelessly gone on merry jaunts, visiting prostitutes both locally and abroad, after having his virility restored by consuming pills and herbal concoctions recommended by his buddies!

He became so "addicted" that he even embarked on a torrid affair with a bar girl in Manila, promising to father a "football team" of children with her.

"I miss you and I love you, sweetheart. Put that in your head," he crooned into his mobile while sitting on the toilet seat, unaware that I was standing by the door. "If you need money, text me and I will send you some."

Since that day, his words have stayed in my head like a stuck tape recorder. My 35 years of love for him, and loyalty and devotion lay shattered at my feet.

I confronted him and despite our subsequent row, he blatantly keeps a stock of those pills and condoms in his briefcase. He never leaves home without them.

I believe many "old" men are living dirty double lives. They act like pitiful, woe-is-me-l-can't-get-it-up husbands.

But once they're safely out of the sight of their gullible wives, they consume sex-enhancing drugs and become roaring tigers.

Their fat wallets make them instant sugar daddies to sweet young things, most of whom are much younger than their own daughters.

Silent suffering wife, Selangor