Jane*, an executive in her 30s, is married with two young children who attend kindergarten. She has been married to her husband for the past 10 years.
However, she and her husband, Ryan* had drifted apart due to work commitments and their mutual affection for each other had dimmed. Eventually, Jane became tempted and got involved with her male colleague, and they carried on a secret affair.
She became pregnant with her lover's child, but she only discovered she was with child in the fifth month of her pregnancy.
Her husband in the meantime had become suspicious as she began to behave differently, and would often leave home early and return late. He discovered her affair after conducting his own investigations.
Ryan eventually forgave Jane for her affair because he still loved her, but her pregnancy came as a second shock to him. He never imagined that she would be pregnant with her lover's child. After a period of struggle, Ryan decided to forgive his wife again.
Although Ryan found it in himself to forgive Jane, he was unable to accept the baby that she had with her lover. He told his wife that their marriage would have to end if she decided to keep the baby. They also kept news of the pregnancy from their own children. The couple decided to approach The Sanctuary House for help when they decided to give up the baby for adoption.
The Sanctuary House is not a baby drop, but a centre that provides support for "crisis" pregnancies and short-term infant care.
Co-founder Noel Tan told Shin Min Daily News: "When the wife gave birth, her husband was there with her at the hospital. He loves his wife very much, but you can tell that he was very hurt."
He added that the wife knew her marriage would end if she chose to keep the baby. She did not see her baby after giving birth to it.
Mr Tan estimates that he sees about one case of a married woman giving up her baby borne out of an extramarital affair every six months. In the past five years, he has handled about 10 such cases. In most cases, the mother gives birth to the baby because they found out about their pregnancies too late and cannot abort, or they had decided to keep the pregnancy as they have hopes of continuing the relationship with their lovers.
*Not their real names.
Those who need help can call or SMS Sanctuary House at 9817 0588 or call the National Pregnancy Helpline on 1800-MUM-TO-BE (1800-686 8623).